What happens when we try something for the first time? We fail! Nothing wrong with that. But in recent decades, parents have started to deny their children with the right to fail.
When we do not give our children time and opportunity to figure out things on their own, we are denying them with the skills they need later on in life. By allowing our children to struggle with problems and the consequences of their actions, they will learn the necessary patience for coming up with solutions. Of course, this approach applies in situations when you know that the consequences are not life threatening or permanent, for example, letting a toddler struggle with wearing his own clothes or shoes.
Let’s normalise failure so that your child knows he or she is not the only one who doesn’t get things right on the first try. Children are usually more resilient than parents believe and we want to cultivate them into resilient adults too!
What are your thoughts and experiences on letting children fail and figuring out on their own? Share them with us and we’ll love to hear from you! 🧡
COMPARISON IS THE KILLER OF JOY | I’m guilty of this. I’ve compared my child to others and sometimes thought to myself, “wow, that kid of the same age can count, but not mine!” “Why doesn’t she know this? The other kid on Instagram could do it”. Yes, I’m human and I compare. BUT, I’ve come to realise that comparison is really such a joy killer!
When you are focused on stressing your child while engaging him in guided play, you become frustrated and your child can sense that as well. I’ve since learnt that its the process of play that matters, and not the end result. It doesn’t matter if she cannot count now, the fact that I’m exposing her to fun activities that expose & teach her, I’m building on her knowledge and she will get there one day.
Here are 4 tips to play effectively with your child:
🌟 Be Playful. Smile, laugh, be dramatic and have fun with your child!
🌟 Affirm. If your child has tried his best, whether he succeeds or not, you praise! Praise his efforts, and not his results. In this way, we encourage our kids to be resilient and not only focused on getting the right answers.
🌟Communicate. Talk while modelling play to encourage your child and guide him. This also helps to extend playtime and he’s learning from YOU!
🌟Practice Empathy. Don’t force your child if he doesn’t want to play. If your child has a negative mindset “Mummy, I can’t”, don’t criticise but assure and encourage.
So, remember PACE (Playfulness, affirm, communicate, emphasise). 4 tips to help you when you next sit down and play with your child!
One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to cultivate the love of books. Both of us grew up with books being a great part of our lives and we remember sitting all day on the couch, finishing a book from front to back, enthralled by the stories. We knew that reading has many benefits but it wasn’t until recent years that scientists have proven reading rewires our brain and improves intelligence. Reading helps language skills, social & emotional development and improves attention span and focus amongst other benefits. And, it all starts from your child’s foundational years. Reading out loud to your kids through their early childhood and early schooling inspires them to become frequent readers in future years.
You are outside and your toddler starts screaming because he does not want to leave, or is insisting he wants something. You are at home trying to get your toddler to follow your instructions, and he starts screaming. Do these situations seem familiar? We’ve been there, and we know how hard it is to control toddler tantrums! Many of us would succumb to shouting back at them or snap and tell them to stop screaming, but will they listen? The answer is NO! Our kids are not intentionally being "terrible", it is just that we might not be talking to them in ways that they'll listen!
In this post, we'll like to share the tips and techniques that we have learnt from books and research and also through our own experiences, on how you can communicate to your kids. We don’t claim to be experts, but are regular moms striving to implement these tips in our daily communication with our kids as well!
This is the season to bring out the pumpkins, spiders, ghosts, witches & monsters! We can let our children engage in some Halloween fun, while introducing some learning goals with these Halloween activities!
How many ways can you play with animal figurines? In this post, we share with you 8 activities that we've tried with our girls, and which they love! It's a great way to introduce animal names to them. Activities were done when they were 16M+ and 20M+
Colour bins are such an easy and fun way to introduce colours to your toddler !
We have put together 4 simple sensory bins to introduce the primary colours of Green, Yellow, Blue and Red to your little one!
Sensory play is any activity that engages and elevates your child’s senses (e.g. Touch, Sight, Hearing, Taste, Movement). Such play activities facilitate and encourage young children to use cognitive processes & creativity while they explore, investigate and create.
Maths! That dreaded subject that children moan when they have to do it, or does it have to be that way? Learning can be made fun for your toddler through play-based activities!
I started my girl on number games & activities when she was 20 months old, but that was only after I felt she was ready for it. She could count to 10 verbally, so the next step was to get her recognizing numbers! This is a first early math skill that toddlers can grasp more easily, before they move on to counting & one-to-one correspondence activities.
Here are 5 fun activities to help your toddler recognise numbers!
Motor skills are an important and significant part of a child’s development and they should be encouraged in the early years of childhood. Motor skills can be categorized into gross and fine.
I want to teach my toddler numbers, but where do I even start? Mastering maths is such a BIG skill from when they start school, I’d better start getting all the foundations laid down!
Well parents, cool down and don’t stress your little one out just yet. Teaching toddlers about numbers involves patience. For sure, they’re not going to be able to master it overnight! As parents, we need to first of all adjust our expectations, let our children take the lead, and break learning down into progressive stages to introduce numbers to our kids. Not to forget, it’s more important to make learning fun to ignite that curiosity to learn which would definitely go a longer mile in your child’s numeracy development.
Read on to find out more!
Poms Poms! Fluffy, light and colourful, there are so many ways to use them for playing and learning (think counting, colour sorting, craft work etc). Poms Poms are also a great way for your little ones to work on fine motor skills and hand eye coordination.
In this post, we are sharing our 3 favourite quick & easy Pom Pom activities to practice fine motor skills for toddlers.
Besides the indoor play-based activities that we do with out toddlers (you can view these from our other Play & Learn activities), we also believe in enhancing their learning through experiential activities, most of it outdoors! Children learn best when they have fun, are able to engage their 5 senses, observe and naturally make connections about the world around them. Here are just some of the simple day to day activities that you can expose your child to!
Craftwork is a great way to get your toddler / pre-schooler’s little fingers some fine motor activity, and is also a fun way to engage with your little one. Why not start a mini craft project in your home? Identify a space that you can display your child’s crafts, and start a monthly craft theme!
Here are 4 activity ideas to start a Garden Themed Craft Wall in your home.
Our toddlers love painting activities and so do we! Give your toddler paints, some tools and paper, and it’s guaranteed to be a sensorial activity that can keep them occupied for some time! It’s also a great way to introduce colours to them, and have them put their fine motor skills to practice.
We recommend using washable paints which makes clean up really easy and you don’t have to worry about dirtying the walls, floors or furniture.
These painting activity ideas were done when both Celyn & Claire were below 2 years old, but it’s also great for older kids!
In today’s era of smart technology and electronic toys, we tend to ‘outsource’ playing and engaging with our children to these immobile devices. However, we under-estimate the importance of play to a child’s cognitive, physical, social and emotional well-being.
Play can involve child-directed open-ended play, arts & craft, adult-directed play activities with teaching goals and outdoor play experiences!
Here are the top 5 reasons why you should start playing & learning with you child today.